Life Is Ocean: Myriad Of Emotions: Today’s emotion is Confrontation
Confrontation with self makes the way easier; ideally, a kind of self-acceptance about reality and being artificial. Whereas confronting someone is onerous, agonizing, and nerve-racking. It can damage the relation, mental health of either side if the case does not handle carefully.
The word confrontation may we listen to quite often. But when it comes to action, it becomes more like a responsibility towards the self, the person in front of you, and the relationship you have with him/her, especially for a conflictless, contented, positive outcome in the end. Petty negative words, imposing tone, a glance of disbelief, or lies can raze the castle of any long-lasting relationship in a fraction of minutes.
WHEN To Confront Someone
By the time I have learned that confrontation doesn’t require with everyone, every time. At most places, an ordinary reply or just walking away from the place or matter is the best therapy to handle the issue.
Albeit, confrontation becomes the utmost requirement in some circumstances. Know when to raise your hand to confront the conflict.
- Confront someone if the subject is persisting: If misunderstanding or unpleasant gestures taking place every then and now to test your patience, it is the time to take a call and confront the person of his/her actions.
- Speak when problems dilate: When you feel the person from your closed group or from formal one’s abrupt behavior widen its zone by every move to not only hamper your comfort place but your physical and mental wellness too, better to speak up before it too late.
- Be open if you sense any threat: The most sensitive point when your gut instincts signal you for mishaps, be wise, be vocal confront the person by all the preparations ( with the support of your own group).
Prerequisites To Confront Someone
I believe that confrontation is more an Art than Science. I do believe that a strong bond can not be shaken by the lust of winds. Parallel to this thought, another veiled truth is that relationships are fragile in nature need paramount care. It is essential to keep some points in mind before stepping in to confront someone if you genuinely want to resolve the issue.
Keep the flow of conversation two-way: Work together to reach the solution. Give enough time to speak to another side also. Only mutual consent can bring mutual results. To reach that notch, pull your sleeves to be a good listener.
Discuss only main Issue: Compact your conversation to the root of the original problem. Widening the conversation dissipates the real motive of confrontation. When the whole chaos mellows down, you can subtly discuss the rest of things.
Start a conversation with positive essence: The most notable thing is to have a tight hold on a constructive conversation even if things are not flowing at your discretion, do not lose the temper.
Prepare Beforehand: Have a raw list of all the facts you want to put into your firm point. Confrontation doesn’t work based on pseudo assumptions.
Don’t entertain blame-game: If you anticipate the positive upshot, keep your conversation untouched with the blame-game circus. It will ruin the meaning of everything forever, like mutual relations, time, reconciliation, etc.
Contemplate The Timing: Be patient enough to wait for the right time to express your thoughts over the conflict or issue. Talk in alone instead of discussing the matter in an open group.
When NOT TO Confront Someone
Every coin has another side; confronting someone is not always a matter of courage; most of the time, it is our inner voice that restricts us from getting into any shit of arguments. Remember the famous quote,
‘Never wrestle with a pig. You just get dirty and the pig enjoys it.’
Situations when opting NO for confrontation is the best way to save the sanity.
- Never pick any confrontation in anger.
- Where a person’s existence doesn’t matter in your life.
- The situation where you are well aware of your low points and the other party’s power position.
- When you know that time will heal up everything gradually.
- If the other party is vengeful.
- When the confrontation process calls you out of your comfort zone, for instance, an unknown place or a new place.
Relationships play a central role in our lives; having disputes and conflicts is natural. We have choices to mold our ways. It is completely up to us to pick which option and when.
Do you have any tips to confront someone? Do share with me.
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